There was a person who stopped by the Dreams Drafted Facebook page the other day. The words shared were very kind and in that moment I took in her appreciation for what I have set out to do and that is to truly inspire people. With genuine efforts I share my stories, find resources, and write about whatever I can to help others. Here is to my first personal response to reader on her own journey to self-revelation . . .
This person did share in the post a condition that she has, called Dysthymia, which is a chronic type of depression where the individual’s moods can be regularly low. I did do some research for this specific condition, which helps me be able to tailor this piece to her and provide a better understanding for myself as I connect with her.
As I read through the symptoms, I instantly started a list of tools to counteract the effects of this condition. Then as I continued, I came across suggested treatments and my ideas matched very closely to what was listed within the resource. You can find more information on PubMed Health and additional resources below:
- Get enough sleep.
- Follow a healthy, nutritious diet.
- Take medicines correctly. Discuss any side effects with your doctor.
- Learn to watch for early signs that your dysthymia is getting worse. Have a plan for how to respond if it does.
- Try to exercise regularly.
- Look for activities that make you happy.
- Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling.
- Surround yourself with people who are caring and positive.
- Avoid alcohol and illegal drugs. These can make your mood worse over time and impair your judgment.
What I want to focus on though is her inquiry for advice on happiness and positivity, which can help bring her freedom from what she described as a cage of negativity. My advice will complement these remedies of treatment for her additional challenge and that is dealing with a physical condition that may press on the emotional experience from day to day.
I am and always will advocate that a healthy life comes from happy living. Understanding ourselves is the first step. Self-awareness is very empowering and builds a deep connection with who we are, who we want to be, and developing a balance between the two. Recognizing our triggers will help us find a way to resolution even before a situation presents itself. Taking a moment to just stop, close your eyes, and take a deep breath will regain one’s focus. From there, you can see the options or various reactions you can have while embracing a positive outlook.
Not every minute of every day is going to be that “happy, go-lucky” feeling. What I have come to learn is that embracing a time of difficulty or negativity and being honest with myself allows me to really soak in those moments of sheer happiness. As you openly take in each emotion for what it is, you can start to develop this understanding of what makes you, you . . . and how things affect you. Anger is a secondary emotion and the key is to figure out what the underlying emotion is because addressing that will resolve the resentment, which is just the reaction to not being able to articulate the true emotion at that time.
I always say, “A negative thought is an opportunity for a positive action.” I may feel like the world is not my friend at times, but when I have that thought I take the opportunity to do something positive which overturns my initial notion of negativity. After a while, with lots of practice . . . I have developed a habit and a foundation of positive thoughts, reactions, and beliefs. Finding the positive in every situation presents growth and with that growth your heart learns forgiveness. The recipe for happiness is true forgiveness within. When you can forgive yourself, you can forgive others . . . a road to leading a very happy life.
Always remember that a verbal expression is an attempt to articulate what we are feeling, however our actions speak louder than words. The content of what we say is truly found in how we say it. When you start to speak the language of positive thought, your body will exhibit this inner peace. Life is a journey of ups and downs, rainstorms, and rollercoasters. It isn’t the experience that defines us, it is how we respond to those experiences that sculpt our true essence. Embrace it . . . acceptance is freedom.
From a personal experience I can validate this person’s statement of, “after all, every experience, whether good or bad, becomes part of us.” Don’t look back; just carry forward the pieces that influenced who you are today. Let life come to you. Without warning you will wake up one day and in your core it will click . . . your purpose in this world will not be something you find, it will find you.
Thank you for writing in and I hope this piece reaches out to you with comfort. I believe in you Sarah. You will do great things. Believe in yourself . . . surround yourself with positive support and encouraging thoughts. Cheers to your new chapter!
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- Inspiration: Acceptance… (eof737.wordpress.com)
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- The Emotional Value of Food (drsharma.ca)
- Happiness exists (moazzamshaikh.wordpress.com)